Grief is a bitch. Grief is inescapable. Throughout some point in everyone’s life, they will encounter grief to some degree. Profound grief is often misunderstood, overlooked, or not honored as one of life’s greatest challenges. A challenge not to be taken lightly.

The loss of a loved one, or a loss of anything you have come to love, can feel like a brick wall has toppled down upon you, often without warning. When shock accompanies grief the magnitude of pain can be immeasurable. …


And, I’ve run out of ways to help him during Covid-19.

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I woke up this morning to a call from my son’s grandfather, Pop-Pop. He rarely calls, if ever, and when he does it has to do with his son, Jack, being in trouble or missing in action. …


Getting back out there creates a whole new level of anxiety for many of us.

So much has changed in short amount of time. The entire world has been gravely affected by a little virus. Corona-fucking-virus. Now what?

I have a side-gig, like most writers, working in real estate; which has come to a screeching halt, alongside of every other industry not set up to operate remotely. …


I’m Teaching My Teenager to Grieve the Best Way I Know How

By the time we’ve turned sixteen, most of us have encountered great loss, and the accompanying heartbreak.

At the age of six, my son Patrick, felt the devastation of loss for the first time as we said good-bye to our beloved golden retriever, Griffin, who’d had a good run of 13-years and finally succumbed to a stroke one Saturday morning in April only days after his birthday.

I built a shrine for Griffin in our dining room and we placed all our favorite pictures of him on a…


The unfair spotlight being cast upon young American boys who play video games, and the unfounded claim of them turning into high-powered assault weapon killers because of these games, is ridiculous.

We must be cautious and mindful to not allow our temptation to place blame on the easiest idea presented to take over as we struggle to understand the painful loss due to gun violence in our schools.

Children who grow up around actual, not digital, violence, hatred and fear, are more likely to head down the road of acting out violently in the name of ideological heroism most-likely learned…


Sex, and the information surrounding sex, is everywhere. Your teens are getting plenty of it- information, that is…...

But, are our kids, little kids, getting enough real information about drugs and addiction?

Between health class, Youtube, and a few awkward words of mostly tuned-out-upon parental wisdom, our children have sex pretty well figured out. Though, probably missing the ever-important emotional component, which they’ll hopefully pick up somewhere along the way.

Drinking and drugs, on the other hand, are even trickier to discuss with our tweens and teens. What do they really know about getting drunk or high as little kids…


My chances of being in a loving, committed, domestic relationship with a woman might be greater than with a man. Same-sex couples raising children in thriving domestic environments are not uncommon within the world I’m raising my son, Patrick. (we’ll call him this for now)

My kid had never been aware of my casual dating attempts when he was little, and turned nine shortly before witnessing a real boyfriend actually spending the night and sticking around for eighteen months, or so. …


My 15-year-old son said he wanted to get a breathalyzer to test me when I’ve been drinking. I never get behind the wheel after having consumed alcohol, not even after a simple glass of wine at a family gathering or a cocktail with friends. I plan my drinking carefully and mostly partake while at home making dinner, doing dishes and laundry, helping with homework, and winding down with a Netflix series I lost interest in, yet want to get to the end of for some reason.

My well-behaved teenager who has, thankfully, not yet entered into the experimentation of all…

Denise DaVinci

Single mother by default, storyteller by choice, fourth generation Los Angelino, Professional Life Coach.

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